Are there any passages that stand out for you? Why?

In the novel The Thing Around Your Neck by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie the short story called The Arrangers if Marriage really stood out for me. This passage stood out to me not because of the arranged marriage which is viewed as a barbaric practice in America, but how Dave, the husband, tries to hide their African roots. Immediately upon arrival in America Dave tries to blend in to American culture and not embrace his differences. America is a country of immigrants and their differences have added to this countries composition. However Dave does not want to be a part of this and longs to be a cog in a uniform system. Instead of enjoying Agatha's homemade dish he fears that the other tenants with view them differently because they eat Nigerian food. He wants to erase all traces of his Nigerian descent even in the homestead, he doesn't allow Agatha to speak in Igaboo or use slang that makes her stand out such as calling biscuits cookies. Dave's wanting to blend in to America encompasses everything even his choice of wife. One of the reasons he chose Agatha was due to her lighter skin and how light skin Africans are more prosperous in America. The other reason that this passage stuck out to me is that my grandfather went through the exact same dilemma as Agatha and Dave . When my Grandfather immigrated from Iran in 1968 he introduced himself as Michael instead of Manocher. He feared his name was to hard to pronounce and scared people. However, he did not try to erase his cultural differences. He still celebrates Persian New Year and teaches his grandchildren about life in Iran growing up and how it has changed so much in his lifestyle. Dave and my Grandfather's views on how to live in America represent immigrant's struggles on how to live in America. Some immigrants want to erase who they were before while others want to keep in touch with their culture.